How To Be YourSelf.....

Being yourself is celebrating you, as an individual - learning to express yourself and being with who you are. For some people, it's learning to love yourself, for others, it's not hiding who you are or changing things about you to fit in. So read on to know how to express the inner you.
1.Define yourself. You can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does. You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them and not let them define you. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past.
2.Stop caring about how people perceive you. The fact is, it really doesn't matter. It's impossible to be yourself when you're caught up in wondering "Do they think I'm funny? Does she think I'm fat? Do they think I'm stupid?" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — not their consideration of you. Besides, if you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go around in a vicious cycle trying to please people; it's totally pointless in the end, and it leaves you exhausted. 
3.Be honest and open. What have you got to hide? We're all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself — and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don't beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest.
4.Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterward. Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you're not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It's also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
5.Develop and express your individuality. Whether it's your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, then be proud of it... unless it's destructive to yourself or others. Be a character, not a type. Learn to communicate well - the better you can express yourself, the easier it is for the people who like you as you are to find you and the ones who don't to just steer clear.
6.Have a productive day. Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and that some days you are the statue. People might raise eyebrows and even make fun, but as long as you can shrug and say "Hey, that's just me" and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you'll respect yourself.
7.Believe in who you are. If you're always working to be someone you're not, you'll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you're proud of the way you are! Nobody knows you better than you and that's how it should be. You deserve to be your own best friend, so start trying to figure out how you can do that. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you? Believe in this idea and use that as your starting point. Love and accept yourself as you are now.

8.Follow your own style. The common thing a lot of people do is copy others' actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn't you stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try avoid assuming other people's perspectives of you, even if it's not something you would normally do; that's what being yourself is all about. Maybe you like to sit outside on the deck under an umbrella in the middle of the rain, maybe you have different ideas of things, rather than other people, maybe you like strawberry cake instead of the common chocolate cake, whatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you. DON'T LET PEOPLE CHANGE YOU! Don't be a second rate version of someone else.

What is meant by real happiness???

I have read an article from Arvind about the real meaning behind the word "Real HAPPINESS".

For the whole life, we go on searching for happiness. Happiness is one of the main purposes of our life. To attain happiness, we do so many things. But most of the time we found our self unhappy in the end of our life. Why? Because we do not understand the true cause of happiness. Happiness is like short term plans and long term plan. Long term happiness is the real happiness for most of the time. We have to plan in advance, which type of happiness we requires a short term or long term. There are many enjoyments in life, which gives us short term happiness. These are like laziness, sleeping, watching TV, listening music, playing or dreaming. I do not say that you not to do all these things. But do them only when they are required.

Any thing of them if we do in excess, may give us some happiness in present. But it will take away the long term happiness away from us. Some of us ruin their whole life for these small pleasures. For achieving the real happiness in life, we should be able to understand which thing gives us happiness and what our purposes to be fulfilled in this life. Most of us do not understand all these things we have to go through some initial pains, for achieving this long term goals. But after achieving these goals, most of our worries go away and we found our self happy.

There is a clear example of a student, who study for whole night and got first in class. On the other hand his friend watched movies and played, therefore got failed. Student who studied has taken some extra pain, but achieved a bigger happiness later in term of his success. Every body will like him and quote his examples. Where as the friend, who has gone for short term plans is unhappy after the result. He is compared and looked down by every body. In this way his small term enjoyments turned into long term unhappiness.

If we do not plan from the day one for long term goals, then we are defiantly going to land in unhappiness. We require understanding, which thing gives us happiness; even it may be associated with some pain in present. Your life's aim should we to attain mastery in the field, which we like and get the exceptional results in that. You may be saying that it is not possible for everybody. But I will not agree, it possible for everybody with some proper planning and taking some pain. We should have the guts to realize our true happiness and fulfill it. This is real purpose of our life. If we not do this, we always remain unhappy

5 Steps to OvercomE stress...

The following are the steps for us to overcome Stress..

1.Relieve Stress,
2.Overcome Fear,
3.Eliminate Anger,
4.Dis-Identify from Your Emotions &
5.Connect with Your True Self.


Just 5 steps but could help you a lot...

35 Ways to Be Beautiful>>>

How will you be beautiful today?Well, there are 35 ways to be beautiful...

1. Smile. As the quote goes, “I’ve never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful.”

2. Be there for someone who needs you even if there’s nothing in it for you–give without expectations.

3. Make a sacrifice for someone you love.

4. Admit a mistake, even if it’s hard to say you’re wrong, and work to make amends.

5. Share your struggles, putting your ego aside, to make someone else feel less alone.

6. Create something that helps people. A song, a blog, a support group, a non-profit–anything that inspires.

7. Help a child feel good about him or herself.

8. Tell someone what you appreciate about them, even if you feel vulnerable.

9. Forgive someone without needing to hear the words, “I’m sorry.”

10. Give someone an uncomfortably long hug when they need it.

10. Create positive energy around you by thinking positive thoughts and acting with positive intentions.

11. Sit with reality without judging anyone or anything.

12. Accept someone for who they are instead of trying to change them to who you want them to be.

13. Treat people like you want to be treated.

14. Notice something simple but beautiful in the world around you.

15. Acknowledge the beauty in others, instead of feeling threatened or competing with other people.

16. Be the change you want to see in the world, as per Gandhi’s suggestion.

17. Tap into your personal power and do something that makes a difference in the world.

18. Find strength in a challenging moment. It’s not easy to do, and you deserve credit for it.

19. Talk kindly about the world around you instead of gossiping or complaining.

20. Forget yourself for a minute and do nothing but listen to someone who needs it.

21. Measure a person by their best moments, not their worst.

22. Give yourself the same courtesy–focus on the good you’ve done, not the mistakes you’ve made.

23. Take the high road when someone hurts you instead if being cruel or catty.

24. Make someone laugh. A smile can literally melt stress and pain away. How beautiful of you to do that for someone else!

25. Make someone cry–tears of joy that is. People want to feel moved, inspired, motivated. Never underestimate the power of touching someone’s heart.

26. Keep an open mind instead of sticking with a judgment or assumption.

27. Love what you’re tempted to fear.

28. Be the voice of optimism when the people around you need it badly.

29. Show humility when your accomplishments would make it easy to stand above people.

30. Handle rejection or failure with grace. It’s far more easily said than done–and it sounds so cheesy and cliche–but accepting loss gracefully makes you a true winner.

31. Show unbridled enthusiasm for something that excites you. All children are beautiful, and I think their unadulterated joy has a lot to do with it.

32. Hear what someone means, not just what they say. Anyone can nitpick. Not everyone actively works to be understanding.

33. Imagine a world where people know peace, and do one small thing to create it.

34. Honor the values that matter to you. Showing integrity is the first step to feeling good about yourself.

35. Accept and love yourself–or as Ben Folds sings, “Learn to live with what you are.”

"LIfE is ShOrt??"

Ito Kaya ang DaHilan KUng Bakit Ganun na Lang ka HoT ang mga Guys na sagutin na ng kanilang mga Nililigawan????
DahiL Sa LOve Nila sa isang tao kaya May mga Bagay na
Di natin maikakaila na nAgiging Hot Pagdating Sa ganitong bagay??

How NicE!!!!! TrUE loVe can Be....

Physical appearance is not the main reason for us to love a person but its on what we feel to that person....

Hoping that everyday is a Valentines Day.. .....Let love shine on us....

Are you in favor that marriage between two the same sex will be socially accepted?

I don’t know. It’s because if we are going to based it in our  religious beliefs, women are only intended for men as well as men are only for women….But, in our present situation, love affairs between the same sex is been a very great issue… We can’t also blame them that they love one another…Kung  sa kanta nga,”Love moves in mysterious ways”, di bah?… Walang pinipiling edad, mapabata man o matanda. But, if we’ll gonna think of it, it’s not that good to hear and still this is not yet accepted in our society as of today….I can’t also easily give my final judgment to this issue because what if we’re in their situation?

            They say, “When it hits you, it will be hard for you to escape”, this is how they defined the word “LOVE”. But then , why is that we are truly affected to what people think of us…though they just co-exist in our lives still we reconsider their opinions?….For me, maybe no man is an island.

            But, if it is true love.. It is bound to be happy, right?... If that will make them happy, why not let them free?... And give them the freedom…

            But then, there is still the word “BUT”…. And question such as, “Will the community and the Christian society accept this? Accepts on conducting marriage ceremony between the same sex in our country or outside….?

            But then, there are things that should be clarify first before we end up to our final decision…

What do you think?